Esther and Rivka Herzfeld are members of an inspirational and beloved family that are well-known in the Teaneck community. Active members at Congregation Beth Aaron, all four children in the Herzfeld family have been diagnosed with juvenile-onset ALS, a neuromuscular degenerative disease. Esther’s husband (Rivka’s father) also suffers from a version of this disease, which developed in adulthood. The story of the Herzfelds has been featured in The Jewish Link in the past, particularly in 2015 during their successful quest for a van to allow their family mobility (“Herzfeld Family Gets Their Van,” July 9, 2015, https://jewishlink.news/herzfeld-family-gets-their-van/).
What always strikes people who get to know the Herzfelds is how they stubbornly refuse to allow their challenges to define them, or to hold them back. While one of the siblings, Rivka, works 40 hours a week, another, Racheli, is pursuing a master’s degree in social work. As they are all in their 20s and early 30s, they also have special interests, activities and friends. They are also highly intelligent critical thinkers who are focused on staying as active as possible so that when a cure is found for their condition, they will be ready to benefit from it.
However, as time has gone on, the needs of the family have increased manifold, even though they have their van and now live in a fully accessible house all on one floor. With communal assistance, they are putting together a fundraiser with the aim of allowing them to pay for an immense shortfall in their bills for the long term.
That’s why the mother and daughter are embarking on a speaking tour called “Life Rewritten,” planning to demonstrate their immense strength as a family and their hope for a better, more supportive future. As Esther explained: “I’m an English teacher, and storytelling is important to me. I emphasize the role of strong women and the role they play in the life cycle of a whole family, and I thought about the irony of my inability to control my own story.” She emphasized that this is the case for many families. “Many people plan a life, and their lives are then derailed. We’re not the only ones.”
Juvenile-onset ALS, an extremely rare condition, affects limb strength, breath support and swallowing, among other basic functions. “Everyone knows about ALS because of Lou Gehrig and Stephen Hawking, and that type of ALS shows up for people in their 50s, 60s, or even 70s. That type of ALS is fatal,” Esther explained. The type of ALS her children and husband have is different, and much less well-known, even among doctors. “My children were studied by neurologists for years and given multiple wrong diagnoses. Finally, right before COVID, they started honing in on what neurons were affected, and because it was similar to ALS, they decided to call it juvenile-onset ALS. Baruch Hashem, it’s not fatal, but it affects daily living.” Of about 100 known cases, the Herzfelds make up five.
Because the condition wasn’t identified until recently, it was a process of years to figure out why the Herzfeld children couldn’t live life as normal. “At first, they were just tripping and falling and dropping things. In retrospect, we realize this was the beginning of the degeneration of the muscles.”
Esther and Rivka recounted that each child developed symptoms at a different stage in their life. While Tzipora was the first to mention that something felt wrong at age 6, Rivka didn’t experience symptoms until her senior year of high school. “I remember saying to my parents, ‘Do you think I have what Tzipora has?’ and they sort of quietly chuckled and said, ‘Yeah, of course you have what Tzipora has.’”
To explain the mechanisms of the condition, Rivka analogized the story of Bavel. “Our sphingolipids, the messengers from the brain to the muscles, are being sent in English. But the muscles are reading the messages from the neurons in Sanskrit. Our muscles can sometimes do the actions, but more slowly, and sometimes can’t do them at all, because they don’t understand Sanskrit.” Rivka clarified, however, that “it doesn’t impact our intellectual capability and our thinking, which is such a bracha.” In her mother’s words, “You’re not fast in your legs, but you’re fast in your mind.”
At this point in time, all four Herzfeld children are wheelchair- or scooter-bound. In their first family house on Schley Place in Teaneck, which they lived in until recently, it was nearly impossible for everyone to fit in the house at a time. “It was like putting corks in a dam that was going to burst,” said Esther. “We got a stairlift, and a ramp, and another ramp, but it was brutally uncomfortable.”
A few years ago, thanks to a previous campaign, the Herzfelds were able to move into a house on Queen Anne Road, which “took the pressure out of the pressure cooker,” said Esther. “There was no need to be fighting over who could get the door or pass each other in the hallway.” According to Rivka, “It’s such a mechaye [relief] to not worry about the house being an obstacle.”
However, the obstacles of navigation within the home are only a small challenge to the Herzfeld family. Between the cost of the electricity, the medical equipment, therapy required that isn’t covered by insurance, and the staggering cost of having multiple aides for 22 hours a day, the family is struggling financially.
Unfortunately, government funding only pays for 40 hours a week for home care per person, which is not enough to cover the needs of the family, which has five members who require full care 22 hours each day. It means, they have to pay cash to their aides to the tune of close to $6,000 each week.
While many have asked the Herzfelds why the government can’t stretch more to help them, Rivka believes that her case specifically is confusing for a disability office to make space for, and possibly out of their comfort zone. For example: “I am a working person, but I have a full disability that is congenital, but didn’t occur until I was 17. All of those things make it extremely complicated for people to understand, especially the government. There’s a $25,000-a-month need, every single month. This is critical to the maintenance of our family.”
Beyond that, all family members take physical and other types of therapy with hand specialists and others at not-insignificant costs, which insurances can often limit or not cover because “they’re not getting better.”
With “Life Rewritten,” the Herzfelds are hoping to take their lives back into their own hands. Currently, they only have enough money for another few weeks of therapy. “I’m afraid to look at the fund total,” Esther said. “I’m just taking out the money. I’m hoping that December 28th will help.” Rivka added: “It’s Kislev, and it should be a month of light. It should be a month in which people can see the light that we can give and not just take. A month of miracles.”
Rabbi Daniel Fridman of the Jewish Center of Teaneck is helping to spearhead the campaign. He shared his thoughts on the importance of helping the Herzfelds. “Chazal describe the Jewish people as possessed of certain indelible characteristics. Amongst these are our status as rachmanim, merciful people, and gomlei chasadim, active purveyors of loving kindness. We invite the entire community to join us to learn about the story of the Herzfeld family, and in doing so, to express these two qualities.”
On Dec. 28, the “Life Rewritten” campaign begins. Please join at Jewish Center of Teaneck, where Esther and Rivka will tell their story and ask for help, allowing them to begin to rewrite their life story. They also recently appeared on The Jewish Link “Pitch Meeting” podcast: youtube.com/watch?v=tTQ7jRrreuw&t=4s. To donate to the campaign, visit thechesedfund.com/herzfeld/the-herzfeld-family.
Eliana Birman
https://jewishlink.news/herzfeld-family-launches-life-rewritten-speaking-tour-and-dec-28-fundraiser/