Joseph Deschambault’s fits of rage began when he was just nine years old.
“He went from the sweetest little boy, very thoughtful, tender-hearted,” his mother, Tasha, recalls from their home in Crystal City, Manitoba. “Within months he was rude and mean and callous and belligerent and vulgar.”
Joseph, now 12, admits he had a problem. “Out of nowhere I would just pop into a rage fit on my mom and start spouting and yelling and just being completely angry.”
Looking for answers, Joseph’s parents found a clue when they checked the family computer and found a trail of online searches for porn websites. Joseph had lost his innocence when he found hard core Internet pornography. He didn’t have to try very hard. In fact, the porn found him.
“I’d be playing a video game on the internet and all of a sudden a pop up comes on the side and you go ‘Where did that come from?’ and the more and more it comes you say I wonder if you could find that here.”
It wasn’t like finding a Playboy stashed in a closet. This wasn’t erotica. This was women being violated, penetrated multiple times by multiple men, gagged, choked, slapped, pounded, spit and ejaculated upon. Free, anonymous, available 24/7 and always just one click away.
Joseph became consumed and obsessed by the images he saw. He couldn’t stop his secret searches.
Joseph’s parents were horrified when they saw the images their son had found. Reluctantly, they broached the subject with him. He broke down instantly. He felt embarrassed, guilty and like his “stomach was rotting from the inside out.” But that didn’t stop him.
Joseph is not alone.
“The average kid first looks at porn around eleven,” explains Gail Dines, a professor of sociology and women’s studies at Wheelock College in Boston and an anti-porn activist. “The average kid at eleven has not had sex that means pornography carries that much more weight. So it looks real. It normalizes violent, abusive sex.” Dines told W5.
Joseph believes his porn-watching was an addiction.